DNC to Spike Lee

Vince went to the Democratic National Convention (DNC) to serve as a national delegate. We (he may say I) made the decision that I would not go. At the time, I was counting dollar signs in my head and really feeling nervous about asking off from my internship. I definitely learned a couple lessons from that.

First, anytime a really big thing is happening to one of us, we want to experience it together. Somehow I thought I would be fine just talking on the phone with him, but feeling the energy at home wasn't enough. I wanted to be beside him to take in all of the historic moments and I chose to stay back.  I don't think I will be doing that again if I can help it.

Second, the trip was 7 days. That was too long. People kept hinting that it was a good thing because "now you have time just for you," "freedom for 7 whole days." In a way those statements reaffirm people's general view of marriage: it's something that is confining/freedom stripping. We don't feel that way though. We genuinely enjoy each other's company...a lot. It only took half a day before the "I miss you's" were flowing freely and I knew I should not have fought Vince so much on going with him. I definitely had trouble sleeping those 6 nights alone and even resorted to sleeping pills to get through it. He said the same on his end.

Guess the big message was: We want to be together. As much as possible. For a lifetime of big moments. (mushy I know but that's what's real for us).

Anyway, after he got back we went on a date night to see Spike Lee. He was in town giving a talk and doing a Q&A. When I was in 8th grade, I wrote a "bucket list" (it wasn't called that then) and it had at the top "become the female Spike Lee". I was gonna make movies about real stuff that mattered and develop noticeable style like SL. I'm not close to that right now but it meant a lot to see him in person. We then went to eat with some peeps and had an awesome time. I was so happy to be back with Vince, sharing that big moment together.